PART 1: WHERE DO I STAND?<\/p>\n
Choose What and If\u00a0<\/p>\n
Yes\u00a0<\/p>\n
No\u00a0<\/p>\n
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\u2013\u00a0<\/p>\n
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1. To avoid getting into an argument, I tend to put off certain discussions longer than I should.\u00a0<\/p>\n
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2. Sometimes when people disappoint or bother me, I confront them only to realize that I talked about the easy problem, but not the real root problem.\u00a0<\/p>\n
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3. Parts of my life would improve if I could just figure out how to talk about certain hot topics without taking too much risk.\u00a0<\/p>\n
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4. Occasionally I talk myself out of holding a certain discussion by convincing myself it\u2019s better to cope than it is to risk an ugly confrontation.\u00a0<\/p>\n
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5. With some of the problems I care about the most, I find myself bringing up the same issue over and over again.\u00a0<\/p>\n
Master My Stories\u00a0<\/p>\n
Yes\u00a0<\/p>\n
No\u00a0<\/p>\n
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\u221a <\/p>\n
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6. When others do things that are mean or selfish and I m less than kind in return, I tell myself that they deserved it.\u00a0<\/p>\n
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7. When others don\u2019t deliver on a promise, there are times when I judge their reasons for doing so more quickly than I should.\u00a0<\/p>\n
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8. Sometimes I assume that others cause me problems on purpose, and then I act as if this assumption is actually true when it may be false.\u00a0<\/p>\n
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9. Occasionally I wonder if I\u2019m too quick to anger.\u00a0<\/p>\n
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10. There are times when I\u2019ve totally blamed others for a problem only to learn that I was partially responsible.\u00a0<\/p>\n
Describe the Gap\u00a0<\/p>\n
Yes\u00a0<\/p>\n
No\u00a0<\/p>\n
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11. Sometimes I bring up problems in a way that makes others defensive.\u00a0<\/p>\n
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12. Occasionally I talk to someone about their bad behavior within earshot of others.\u00a0<\/p>\n
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13. There are times when I can\u2019t figure out how to give others completely honest feedback in a way that won\u2019t offend them.\u00a0<\/p>\n
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14. Sometimes when I bring up a problem I do too much talking and not enough listening.\u00a0<\/p>\n
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15. When I bring up problems with others, there are times when I make it hard for them to share their views.\u00a0<\/p>\n
Make It Motivating\u00a0<\/p>\n
Yes\u00a0<\/p>\n
No\u00a0<\/p>\n
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16. I can\u2019t motivate some of the people to change because I don t have enough power to do so.\u00a0<\/p>\n
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17. In order to get people to want to do certain things, sometimes I rely on guilt or even threats.\u00a0<\/p>\n
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18. There are times when I can\u2019t figure out why people aren\u2019t interested in doing what they should be doing.\u00a0<\/p>\n
\u221a<\/p>\n
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19. Sometimes it\u2019s hard to get others to understand that the behavior I want from them is really in their best interest.\u00a0<\/p>\n
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20. There are people I routinely deal with who, to be honest, just can\u2019t be motivated.\u00a0<\/p>\n
Make It Easy\u00a0<\/p>\n
Yes\u00a0<\/p>\n
No\u00a0<\/p>\n
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21. When people find a job to be unattractive or noxious, I occasionally turn up the heat so they will do it no matter what.\u00a0<\/p>\n
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22. When someone can\u2019t do something, I tend to jump in with my advice, when all they really want is a chance to talk about their ideas.\u00a0<\/p>\n
\u221a<\/p>\n
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23. Sometimes I think that individuals who bend over backwards to make jobs easy are pampering people who just need to do their job and be held accountable.\u00a0<\/p>\n
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24. Occasionally after finishing a problem-solving discussion, I forget to check to see if the other person is committed to do what s necessary.\u00a0<\/p>\n
\u2013\u00a0<\/p>\n
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25. There are times when I\u2019ve asked others for their ideas but didn\u2019t really need them because I already had a plan of my own.\u00a0<\/p>\n
Stay Focused and Flexible\u00a0<\/p>\n
Yes\u00a0<\/p>\n
No\u00a0<\/p>\n
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26. When talking to others about problems, sometimes I get sidetracked and miss the original problem.\u00a0<\/p>\n
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27. When people bring up whole new problems during a crucial confrontation, I don t know what to do with the new issue.\u00a0<\/p>\n
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28. When people get angry in the middle of a discussion, I don t always know how to respond.\u00a0<\/p>\n
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29. I\u2019m pretty good at staying focused on an issue, but occasionally may miss talking about what the other person really wants to discuss.\u00a0<\/p>\n
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30. When someone misses a commitment and should have updated me but didn\u2019t, I generally let them off the hook – even though they didn\u2019t have the courtesy to involve me.\u00a0<\/p>\n
Move to Action\u00a0<\/p>\n
Yes\u00a0<\/p>\n
No\u00a0<\/p>\n
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31. Sometimes I work through a problem but forget to clarify who is supposed to do what by when.\u00a0<\/p>\n
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32. There are times when I\u2019m disappointed with what others have done because they have failed to understand exactly what I wanted them to do.\u00a0<\/p>\n
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33. Sometimes I neglect to give others a specific deadline, only to be surprised when they don t deliver by the time, I expected them to.\u00a0<\/p>\n
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34. I\u2019m pretty sure that either my kids, my spouse, or some of the people I work with think I micromanage them.\u00a0<\/p>\n
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35. Sometimes I give people assignments but don\u2019t have adequate time to follow up.\u00a0<\/p>\n
Scoring\u00a0<\/p>\n
Add up the number of boxes you checked Yes. Each represents an area where you could use some assistance. Here\u2019s what your total score means:\u00a0<\/p>\n
26 – 35:\u00a0Don t put this book down!\u00a0<\/p>\n
16 – 25:\u00a0You could use some help, but at least you re honest.\u00a0<\/p>\n
6 – 15:\u00a0You\u2019re capable and likely are succeeding.\u00a0<\/p>\n
1 – 5:\u00a0You could teach us all a thing or two.<\/p>\n
Chapter-by-Chapter Results\u00a0<\/p>\n
Which two chapters did you have the most \u201cyes\u201d boxes checked? Explain why you think you have a challenge in each of those two areas.<\/p>\n
PART 2: ACCOUNTABILITY REFLECTION<\/p>\n
Step 1: Think of a chronic or ongoing problem you face at work, at school, with your family, relationships. As you do so, ask yourself the following questions (this is to get you thinking about accountability issues) Explain:<\/p>\n
What do I complain about most to others?<\/p>\n
What people do I avoid and what do they do that frustrates me?<\/p>\n
Am I working on projects that I know will NOT meet their targets\/goals?<\/p>\n
Am I more upset when I finish a conversation than when I started?<\/p>\n
Do I interact with people whom I would describe as disorganized, unreliable, rude, insensitive or dishonest? What specific actions have I seen that make me come to these conclusions?<\/p>\n
Step 2: Identify 3 chronic or ongoing problems that you face right now:<\/p>\n
Step 3: Using the above list, pick 1 that you would like to work on over the next few weeks as we study crucial accountability. You are encouraged to choose a problem that has been hard to resolve, has lasted for a long time, you have been hesitant to deal with and it won\u2019t be resolved until you sit down with the other person to solve it. <\/p>\n
That problem is:<\/p>\n
Think about the areas that you had the most \u201cyes\u201d boxes checked and answer the following questions:<\/p>\n
What factors do you think cause you struggle in these areas? <\/p>\n
What factors makes being accountable or holding others accountable a challenging for you? <\/p>\n
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